What Flows Out of You?


Every year for my birthday, my amazing wife buys me tickets to the Dave Koz & Friends Smooth Jazz Christmas concert. And every year, I’m inspired by the pure talent and teamwork showcased onstage.

Dave always impresses me with his thoroughly entertaining role as THE sax man and master of ceremonies for the show.

But the performer who completely mesmerizes me is Jonathan Butler. Listening live to his crazy good guitar skills and super smooth vocals is an unforgettable experience.

Music just flows out of the guy. He could be a poster child for God-given talent.

Have you ever felt that wave of amazement wash over you when you encounter somebody who’s got that kind of flow going on? You know what I’m talking about, right?

Has he practiced his fingers off and honed his skill for many years? Without a doubt. But there’s something more to it than that.

Jonathan is one of those rare people who have connected with exactly what they were put on this earth to do. Kinda like Tiger Woods, Mother Theresa, Bill Gates, Oprah, Warren Buffet, J.K. Rowling, or even Ryan Seacrest. And if you’re thinking what I’m thinking right now, yes, I probably am the first person to use Mother Theresa and Ryan Seacrest in the same sentence!

What these people all have in common is they have discovered that one thing they do that just flows from them. It comes easy and natural to them, and they’ve learned how to take that one thing and run full speed with it.

Celebrities are not the only people who fit the description. I know mothers, fathers, architects, television reporters, magicians, project managers, and graphic designers who have completely connected with their role on this earth, too.

Witnessing that pure flow of talent + fulfillment of purpose often gives me goosebumps. It also makes me take a closer look at my own life to see if I’m even coming close to doing exactly what I’m meant to be doing with my life.

My recent encounter with Jonathan Butler prompted me once again to ask myself if what I’m doing is what I was meant to do. Some things have happened in my life recently that lead me to believe that I’m not quite there yet, but I’m on the right track.

Rather than creating another resolution or setting more goals, I’m going to focus my efforts right now on listening to my gut and paying attention to the universe as it points me the direction I’m supposed to go. I don’t mean that to sound too mystical, but I do believe that if you’re open to it, God, the universe, the force, or whatever you call it will conspire to help you.

Here are five questions that may help you start thinking about your own path:

1. When have I experienced something truly flowing out of myself — where it came naturally (with or without practice), it didn’t feel at all like work, I had complete joy doing it, and people around me noticed it, too?

2. Is what I’m doing with the majority of my life anywhere close to the answer to question #1?

3. If my answer to question 2 is “yes”, then what can I do to even more completely immerse myself in this purpose?

4. If my answer to question 2 is “no”, then how can move my life toward using the skill or talent that naturally flows out of me?

And, finally:

5. What can I do TODAY to step into that flow?

I get goosebumps just thinking about what could be in store for all of usĀ if we would just step into our flow.


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