The Christmas decorations are up in all the stores (except Nordstrom), my daughter has changed the #1 button on my car to the insane station that starts playing Christmas music the day after Halloween, and a few days ago I saw a video on Facebook of the first snowstorm in Vail, Colorado.
Complain about it all you want, but there are definitely many things worse than extending the season that encourages peace on earth and goodwill toward men (and women, and kids, and pets, and strangers).
While the Holidays are a time for giving to others, I thought it might be fun to share a list of things that I believe you should give yourself this Christmas (or at least sometime soon). Why? Well, I have a pretty good idea that you’re someone who does a great job at serving other people and always putting others first. That’s awesome and admirable…and often quite exhausting. Service-oriented people have a high tendency to wear down, burn out, and deplete themselves of the energy that being a service-oriented person truly requires.
I want you to keep serving, keep lifting others up, and keep living and leading your rockstar life to the best of you ability. For that reason, I really, really want you to take care of yourself. I know it’s hard, but you have to make YOU a priority.
Self-care helps you live a self-less life more effectively.
Plus, after talking about how to stand up to a bully last week and encouraging you to stop beating yourself up the week before that, I selfishly wanted to write about something a bit more lighthearted this week.
My Christmas Wish List For You:
1. FULLY CHARGED BATTERIES
The #1 way to keep up your energy is to regularly take time to refresh your body, mind, and soul. You don’t have to take a three week vacation to Fiji (although that sounds pretty good, doesn’t it?). How about getting a massage once a month, or having date night once a week, or spending 30 minutes reading for fun. The key is to SCHEDULE it. If you wait until you have time, you’ll neglect yourself because time has a funny way of always running out.
Some of my favorite battery chargers:
- A membership at Massage Envy
- Dinner with my wife at a Cameron Mitchell Restaurant (her fave is Ocean Club)
- Any book by Bill Bryson (A Walk In The Woods is a good one to start with)
2. A NEW CALENDAR
I’m not saying that you should buy a new Justin Bieber calendar for your wall (unless, of course, you are a giant Justin Bieber fan, and you’re 13 years old). What I AM saying is that perhaps you could give yourself a new ATTITUDE about your calendar. Protect it more fiercely and plan it more intentionally in 2016 than you did in 2015 (and 2014, and 2013, and 2012…). Schedule time for yourself (see item #1 above) and be very liberal with your use of the word, “no”. A new calendar really means stop overcommitting so you can give yourself the gift of breathing room instead.
If you love actual paper calendars like my wife does, here are a few for 2016 that I would totally hang on my wall:
- Words To Live By (modern motivational art to keep you inspired)
- Audbon Calendar (The images are just stunning)
- I Could Pee On This (and other poems by cats) (Who doesn’t love poems written by cats?)
3. CHILD-LIKE FUN
Almost every adult I know who engages, or re-engages, in child-like fun never ever regrets it. I believe that most of the fuddyduddy types who sit on the sidelines — you know, the ones who scowl at the “silly” ones who are actually having fun — secretly wish they could join in, but for some reason they just can’t give themselves permission.
I’m giving you permission. Let loose. Unleash your inner child. You’ll quickly gain more energy, optimism, and creativity — all things adults need lots more of these days, don’t you agree?
Here are some child-like fun things you can buy (you still have to USE them to get the benefit, FYI):
- Coloring books and pencil kits for adults. These new ones from Crayola also include the colored pencils (you know, in case you lost the ones you had when you were six).
- A longboard (like this one from Arbor Skateboards). It’s skateboarding, but way easier.
- Mr. Potatohead. We have dozens of these around sparkspace and, yes, the grownups play with them all the time. Here’s a starter kit with lots of pieces and parts to make it even more fun.
What would you add to the list? Leave a reply below and add to the inspiration!
I know it’s still a little early, but what the heck: MERRY CHRISTMAS!