I’m not often blown away by hearing something new (or hearing something ages old for the first time). Like you, I’ve seen a lot, read a lot, and experienced a lot. I’ve studied personal and professional development for decades now.
So, I don’t say this lightly.
Brooke Castillo’s podcast last week blew me away.
A little background: Brooke is a life coach. She also teaches other people how to be life coaches via The Life Coach School. She’s also an author, speaker, and podcaster. As a podcaster myself, I am always looking for new and interesting things to listen to. As I was searching iTunes for some fresh podcasts a few weeks ago, I discovered Brooke’s brand new podcast…literally 3 episodes old at the time. And I quickly fell in love with her ideas, personality, and production quality.
So what did she talk about last week that captivated me so much? Well, first of all, her title kinda grabbed me (in fact I totally stole it for the title of this post):
It Doesn’t Get Better Than This
She echoed so much of what I’ve been thinking and talking about lately, about how we live in the future so much that we miss the present. She added to this thinking a very powerful thought:
There is no moment in the future any better than this moment.
In fact, there is no moment anytime, anywhere that is better than the moment we are living right now. The only difference — the ONLY difference — is how we choose to perceive the moment.
Think about it. Right now — this very moment — a gazillion different circumstances are happening all over the world. Someone is being born. Someone is dying. Someone is getting married. Someone is getting divorced. Someone is getting a job. Someone is getting fired. Someone is buying a house. Someone is getting evicted. That’s not quite a gazillion, but you know I could go on and on like this for days.
All of that is happening simultaneously right now. And now. And now. And in every circumstance people are choosing how they react. Some are celebrating, some are mourning. Some are hopeful, some are frustrated. Some are happy, some are angry. Some are euphoric, some are devastated. But the most interesting thing to me is that these emotions don’t just match up to opposing circumstances. They often happen within the SAME circumstance.
For instance, when someone dies, some people mourn the loss to the point of depression and despair. Others choose to celebrate a life well-lived and the promise of a better place. FOR THE DEATH OF SAME PERSON.
How is that possible?
Because no moment is better (or worse) than any other moment. Sure, circumstances are constantly changing, and we can all agree that some circumstances are more preferable than others (I guarantee both people mentioned above would prefer to have their loved one alive and healthy). But the moment itself? It’s just a moment. It’s neither good nor bad. As you’ve heard many times before, though, it’s how we CHOOSE to think about our circumstances that makes the difference.
And the biggest choice of all? Choosing happiness and contentment right now, not in the future. Easier said than done. We have developed the very disempowering habit of thinking “I’ll be happy when…”. Our “whens” often include new circumstances and new objects, like a new house, car, marriage, salary, vacation, retirement, etc.
The truth — which Brooke put so beautifully in her podcast — is that our happiness doesn’t happen when we achieve those things. Our happiness happens when we CHOOSE to be happy about those things. And by that thinking, you can choose to be happy anytime you want.
Take some time this week to listen to Brooke’s Podcast, especially last week’s episode: It Doesn’t Get Better Than This. It’s powerful stuff. In fact, I’m pretty sure it will be life changing for some of you. I know it was for me.
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